Tuesday, January 3, 2012

a year in review, sort of

It’s been almost a year and half and I finally found the perfect song. After feeling the impact of every sad/love/sad-love song like it was written just for me but knowing it wasn’t—there was no love; god, was there absolutely no love—I found it, and it’s bittersweet in every cliché way, and it’s funny how little it all crosses my mind now except every now and again and when I talk about it, it’s not like stabbing myself in the chest, and do we ever really learn from anything, anyway, or are we—am I—doomed to go on and on and on like we do, hurting people in our way, getting hurt by people who put themselves in our way, or maybe they didn’t ask to get in our way at all. But we can’t stop, cutting a swath on our way to what? to success? to accomplishment? to freedom? I hope you don’t end up in a ditch somewhere, but I guess you got what you wanted, and I finally feel free and happy and I wasn’t listening at the Christmas church service, but the one thing I did hear was when the pastor said that it’s almost a new year—and once it’s here, there’s no point in worrying about everything that happened in the year past; it’s over; no point in dwelling on it, and he’s right, and there are so many things I’m tired of dwelling on and there are some things you have to do and be done with and it’s hard, certainly, but it’s Over. and Done. and if they weren’t you surely would have buried me by now. Germany probably saved my life or at least my sanity. If I hadn’t of had to slow down I don’t know where I would be right now or how burned out or how strung out or fried—I couldn’t have kept going, and as I’ve said more than once in the last 48 hours, both teary-eyed and drunkenly in the dark and sleepy-eyed and laughing in the sunshine, this year has to be better than last.

I’m finally coming to terms with the idea/fact/concept that I’m not the same as I was, or maybe I’m still the same but I’m allowing myself to feel and be the things I never let myself before. I worked so hard to be so tough, and so strong, but I don’t think I ever was, but I’m tired of berating myself for everything I think I shouldn’t be because, as it all turns out, I’m soft. And I’m weak. Metaphorically and literally, and I’ve got scraped up knees to prove it. We get fucked, we get fucked with and we get fucked up but I guess we do learn at some point to know better, or at least our reaction time gets a little quicker each time and maybe the universe wants to balance itself or it’s just playing a terribly slow game of see-saw since the end of 2010 started to slide down and down and down and the end of 2011 started to tip up and up and maybe not quite so up, but after all, she sings, it won’t take long to fall in love, and starting the first few days of the new year with the people I love, nursing a hangover; eating chilaquiles and cinnamon rolls; sitting in a tattoo shop; laying on the couch watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer, is all I really ever wanted to do.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Life is a journey, which, by the way, goes very quickly so try to enjoy and learn from the good times and the hard times, being quick to forgive, not storing up resentments and bitterness, and always moving foward by the grace of God.

Brian said...

woah.

Molly said...

This year will be better. And I love you forever. We have enough chilaquiles and Buffy to console a million bad days, but here's to hoping that 2012 brings fewer of those! XOXO

Lauren said...

I love you, lady.